There is a Buddhist teaching about Three Divine Messengers, each of whom help us to wake up, pay attention, and make right choices. The Messengers are described like this:

01/First Messenger: Old Age

Did you never see in the world a man or woman eighty, ninety, or a hund...

Two roads diverged in a wood and…

It’s likely our loved one took the most common path – the one that led to probate.  Maybe they left a will or communicated their wishes at the last Thanksgiving dinner.  But, they are gone now.  And here you are, in the land o...